Hi Reader,
I've been feeling flat lately. Stuck in a rut, and I didn't even realise it.
I had COVID a few weeks ago and it really knocked me about. But even after recovering, I kept saying to my husband:
"Life isn’t meant to be this hard, is it?"
I was exhausted. Not thinking about what I was eating. Losing hours scrolling. Not practicing what I preach at all.
I blamed my mood on the economy... on the state of the world... on winter.
But if I’m being honest, the cracks started long before I got sick.
COVID was just the wake-up call.
Because I kept ignoring the whispers from my body.
The gentle nudges.
Until it finally yelled.
The truth is: I’ve been living in survival mode. Busy. Wired. Nervous system in constant fight-or-flight.
And I know I’m not alone in this.
I believe we’re in an era of infertility fuelled by nervous system dysregulation.
We’re seeing more unexplained infertility. More women being diagnosed with immune-based infertility issues. More protocols using things like prednisolone, intralipids, and natural killer cell testing just to support implantation.
Why? Because the body doesn’t feel safe.
And this is such a big part of what I do with my clients. Helping them return to safety. To regulation. To a state where the body can receive pregnancy.
I would be lying if I said I didn’t need to work on this myself, regularly.
So I’m right here with you.
The hardest part?
Nervous system dysregulation doesn’t show up on a blood test.There’s no magic supplement.
But our body is constantly giving us signs. And your uterus? It’s listening to your nervous system.
Just like I was taught in Chinese medicine: everything is connected.
If you are reading this now and are starting to panic. Please don't.
Not everyone I support needs immune treatment or IVF. But I do want you to start noticing how your nervous system might be affecting your body:
🌀 It could be disrupting ovulation
🌀 It could be raising insulin and driving metabolic issues
🌀 It could be keeping your body in a constant state of “not now”
Its the world we live in, and I'm a victim of it myself. Because somewhere deep down, I still carry the belief that if I’m not doing or achieving, I’m failing.
Why am I telling you this?
Because I want you to know I'm human. And it is so normal to fall off the wagon.
This is the kind of conversation I have with my fertility clients regularly.You feel good when you’re doing all the things... but perfectionism creeps in.And deep down, we don’t trust our bodies anymore.
So we do more. Until we burn out.
Let me remind you, as I reminded myself this week, it’s never too late to start again.And the truth? It works faster than you think.
Here are some things I've done to bring me back to balance:
👉 Journaling.
Nothing fancy, just a quiet space and a cup of tea. Sometimes I write for 5 minutes, sometimes 20. But it’s helped me seehow I’m really feeling.
👉 Prioritising protein + adding creatine.
I realised I was eating around 60g of protein a day when my body needs closer to 130g. No wonder I was exhausted and craving so much sugar. Since increasing protein and taking creatine, my energy and focus are back and I no longer want to cry from exhaustion at the end of the day. Seriously. Game changer.
👉 I asked for help.
I was so deep in it, I felt paralysed. You know that feeling? Too much to do… and you can’t do any of it. Complete overwhelm. This is my husband's zone of genius - problem solving.Nic helped me get it all out of my head, crossed off what he could take care of, and helped me map out what I want to achieve in a clear and achievable way.
So now… things are shifting.
And you’ll start to see that shift reflected here, too.
With Nic’s help, I’ve mapped out a better way to show up for you and for me.(And if you know me, you know I love a bit of structure.)
So welcome to the new version of this newsletter.It will now land in your inbox every Friday, starting with a personal note like this, followed by:
✔️ What’s new on the blog
✔️ New podcast episodes
✔️ The latest in fertility news
I want this to feel real. Helpful. Human.A place where I can share what’s on my heart and what’s in the research.
Thanks for being here.
It means the world.
